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Judy's avatar

What a wonderful article, K! You nailed it with so much feeling, and love for your Bubby. And memories brought back of Montreal places - e.g., Brown Derby. Congratulations on an article that captivates the reader the whole way through.... LOVE IT!

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thank you so much, Judy! Them's were the days, that's for sure. An era long gone and wistfully remembered.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thanks again for the kind words!

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Just Sayin''s avatar

This American wishes Canada all the best, and that it remain Canada. Every young person shoul have a Bubby. In my case, that beloved person was my uncle Bill; kind, mostly silent, able and willing to do and fix anything or help me learn to do it myself.

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Kristin Shannon's avatar

I can taste the bagel. I can feel the love. Grandmothers - we have so much in common. Thank you Kinneret.

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Anna C Rumin's avatar

Kinneret - a wonderful tribute.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thank you, Anna!!!

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Janet's avatar

Lovely story. My husband's bubby was much like yours..what's not to love? And I too recall the Brown Derby...Sunday night family outings. Line ups and loud voices-good childhood memories

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

That was such a wonderful era, and The Brown Derby, a Montreal treasure. Who knew it wouldn't last?

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BKL's avatar

I loved this. Wonderful memoir, excellent use of dialect: I could hear your bubbe, Z"L. Thanks to you, her memory, and love, live.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Miriam Kresh's avatar

Thank you for this. It made me love your Bubby, may she rest in peace.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Many thanks, Miriam!

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Dionetta Doerfler's avatar

This is wonderful, thank you for sharing!

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thanks for the kind words!

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TK Eldridge's avatar

Missing my Nanas today after reading this - and this poem popped up in my FB memories as well today.

They are taking so many things with them:

their sewing machines and fine china,

their ability to fold a newspaper

with one hand and swat a fly.

They are taking their rotary telephones,

and fat televisions, and knitting needles,

their cast iron frying pans, and Tupperware.

They are packing away the picnics

and perambulators, the wagons

and church socials. They are wrapped in

lipstick and big band music, dressed

in recipes. Buried with them: bathtubs

with feet, front porches, dogs without leashes.

These are the people who raised me

and now I am left behind in

a world without paper letters,

a place where the phone

has grown as eager as a weed.

I am going to miss their attics,

their ordinary coffee, their chicken

fried in lard. I would give anything

to be ten again, up late with them

in that cottage by the river, buying

Marvin Gardens and passing go,

collecting two hundred dollars.

“My Grandparents’ Generation” by Faith Shearin from Telling the Bees. © Stephen F. Austin State University Press, 2015.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Lovely! And so true. A generation gone and with it all of the wonderful things that defined it.

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Sarah Prospero's avatar

You honour both your Bubby, the 'queen', and your relationship with her in this lovely piece, especially clear in the snippets of your conversations which reveal such tenderness and love on your part, and such determination and bravado on hers. Well done!

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thanks so much, Sarah!! Writing this piece made me feel back "there" with her as the young granddaughter I was then, enjoying her company and our conversations. And her love.

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David McNally's avatar

A wonderful, heartwarming story that reminds us of the price our ancestors paid to seek a better life.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thanks, David!

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Paula Halpin's avatar

Kinneret, what a moving homage to your beloved grandmother. Keenly observed details show us what she looked like, her courage, her resilience, and her impish sense of humour.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Yes, she really did have an impish sense of humour Paula. And always with a glint in her eye. :-)

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Robert Snikkar's avatar

A touching picture of a woman - a grandmother and a granddaughter. A little lesson in "What do I have to complain about?" and in its own way a mitzvah that informs. Delightfully voiced.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thank you so much, Robert!

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Elaine Kalman's avatar

I lived in that area of Montreal in the 1970s as a young mother and pushed my stroller up and down Victoria, my groceries on the bottom shelf and a toddler in the seat. It was a wonderful street with many ladies who might have answered to the description of your Bubby. How lucky you were to have each other. What a capacity for love she had!

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Thanks so much, Elaine. It really was a colourful neighborhood and innocent times. Well, fairly innocent. :-) And I really was lucky to have had my Bubby!!

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Elaine Kalman's avatar

I am particularly sensitive to stories like yours, Kinneret. I grew up without grandparents. All four of mine perished in Auschwitz. As a child, I didn’t realize that I was lacking in anything. But it was a large hole that I have attempted to fill with a couple of books reconstructing their lives. But words cannot be a substitute for relationships such as the one that you had with your grandmother. You were particularly blessed in recognizing it at the time. Thank you for sharing.

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Kinneret Haimes's avatar

Yes, I do know how lucky I was, Elaine. It was a totally unconditional love and deeply felt between us. Whenever I think of her, I'm back there as a twenty-something (or younger), enjoying her company.

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Marci Keats Rudolph 🇨🇦's avatar

I used to dream of having a grandmother like your Bubby. Thank you for sharing.

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Mary Anne Ferguson's avatar

delightgfullly majestic! grandeur can be found everywhere

mary anne

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